Forever is unstable

[davidn]

When you're married, you start to make friends as couples rather than knowing people on their own. I'm not sure how that happens, but it does. But it seems that one set of our couple friends is about to become a pair of un-coupled friends now, because we've just heard that they're separating and one is throwing the other out.

With this development, this means that the majority of the weddings that I've attended (excluding our own) have been for marriages that ended in divorce. So if you get married, careful of inviting me.

Or make sure that you pair up as Christian/Jewish, American/British, Mac/PC user, science/arts student, because paradoxically all that seems to work just wonderfully.

Comments

[e-to-the-ipi.livejournal.com]

My 21 year-old sister is getting married in 10 days. Hopefully, the fact the wedding's in Inverurie isn't having you too close.

I remember a moment in third year when I realised all couples I'd known two years previously had either split up or got married. Impermenance is scary.

[jenny0.livejournal.com]

I'm not sure how it happens either - maybe it's just as we get older, more people of the same age as you tend to be married? Almost all the people around our own age that Jason and I have met since getting together have been couples/married. It's not that we're being all twee looking for "couples friends" and going on double dates, it just happened.

None of them have split up yet, and the only one that looks a bit iffy we knew both of them before they were a couple, so that won't be too weird if it does go pear-shaped.

[stubbleupdate.livejournal.com]

What if he was a punk and she did ballet?

What more can I say?

[diarytypething.livejournal.com]

So you're the one cursing all of these weddings? And here I was thinking it was me.

I think it's just a thing that happens - people change a lot in their twenties, and we don't always realise it to begin with because we think we're grownups now and that's that. From where I'm standing (quite a long way away from marriage), it looks as if marrying young involves specific difficulties and there's probably fair amount of luck involved to make sure that you're both still right for each other a couple of years down the line. Just remember that divorce is generally a far better option than continuing a dismal marriage, and the people who have admitted it are sparing each other more unhappiness, and coincidentally sparing their friends from some even greater social awkwardness.

[marcobiagi.livejournal.com]

Speaking as a person who is single (and more than slightly bitter about such), from my perspective what is terrifying and dispiriting is the way everyone is married or getting married.

[pami-zee.livejournal.com]

If you really are cursed, you're not invited to my wedding! Sorry, but I don't want a divorce :P

I think a lot of the time it's hard if you start off with a serious relationship and never date anyone else, because then you spend your time curious of what anything would be like with anyone else. Or think you might argue less with someone else. That sort of thing.

That's just my theory, but then, I don't believe in "Mr Right" or anything like that.