Forever is unstable

[davidn]

When you're married, you start to make friends as couples rather than knowing people on their own. I'm not sure how that happens, but it does. But it seems that one set of our couple friends is about to become a pair of un-coupled friends now, because we've just heard that they're separating and one is throwing the other out.

With this development, this means that the majority of the weddings that I've attended (excluding our own) have been for marriages that ended in divorce. So if you get married, careful of inviting me.

Or make sure that you pair up as Christian/Jewish, American/British, Mac/PC user, science/arts student, because paradoxically all that seems to work just wonderfully.

Comments

[diarytypething.livejournal.com]

So you're the one cursing all of these weddings? And here I was thinking it was me.

I think it's just a thing that happens - people change a lot in their twenties, and we don't always realise it to begin with because we think we're grownups now and that's that. From where I'm standing (quite a long way away from marriage), it looks as if marrying young involves specific difficulties and there's probably fair amount of luck involved to make sure that you're both still right for each other a couple of years down the line. Just remember that divorce is generally a far better option than continuing a dismal marriage, and the people who have admitted it are sparing each other more unhappiness, and coincidentally sparing their friends from some even greater social awkwardness.

[davidn]

Maybe that's it - the two of us have so little in common that any change can only bring our personalities closer together.

I suppose this is another disillusionment hurdle I'm yet to really get over, when I was much younger I thought marriage was meant to be irreversible, and now that it clearly isn't it's easier to think of it as a convenient way of living together as long as you need to with some benefits from the tax office. Which seems a bit cold.

[starfishchris.livejournal.com]

Of course it's cold - the warmth is meant to come from your relationship, not from bits of paper. :p