Forever is unstable

[davidn]

When you're married, you start to make friends as couples rather than knowing people on their own. I'm not sure how that happens, but it does. But it seems that one set of our couple friends is about to become a pair of un-coupled friends now, because we've just heard that they're separating and one is throwing the other out.

With this development, this means that the majority of the weddings that I've attended (excluding our own) have been for marriages that ended in divorce. So if you get married, careful of inviting me.

Or make sure that you pair up as Christian/Jewish, American/British, Mac/PC user, science/arts student, because paradoxically all that seems to work just wonderfully.

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[jenny0.livejournal.com]

I'm not sure how it happens either - maybe it's just as we get older, more people of the same age as you tend to be married? Almost all the people around our own age that Jason and I have met since getting together have been couples/married. It's not that we're being all twee looking for "couples friends" and going on double dates, it just happened.

None of them have split up yet, and the only one that looks a bit iffy we knew both of them before they were a couple, so that won't be too weird if it does go pear-shaped.

[davidn]

That's probably it - particularly, friends that I knew as single students in university become married couples, then parents and homeowners (that last stage is beginning to happen, and even we have started looking in the window of the estate agent rather than walking past - it's truly terrifying). Though when I think about it, I'm the youngest of the group I went around with in university by about two years... so maybe that gives me a safety zone.

[jenny0.livejournal.com]

I'd think that would make it worse - your friends are all a few years ahead of you in the marriage/kids/house stakes?

A few of my friends from younger days are now buying houses, and it's kind of making me want to take that step - but really, we love renting.